In Seminary, I had a teacher who used to talk to us about dating. He would often say to us “Girls, when it comes to dating – hindsight is 20-20”.
Being married for close to 22 years and continuing the life work of self-actualization, I have found this true in so many different areas of my life. Sometimes we look back at our lives and see all of our great accomplishments. Other times we look back and look at all the things we think we could have, should have or would have done. We take a more critical stance and beat ourselves up for what we did not accomplish.
It is at those times in particular, when we are sitting in the valley and looking up at the hills and mountains we have climbed and we still have yet to climb that we need to look back and see how far we have come. We need to recognize that even some of the valleys are really mountains of growth in another area of greatness.
Last night, I was beating myself up for not having blogged consistently for the past few years. I wondered to myself where I have been and why there were so few posts. Then I took a step back and remembered that I was there for my family. I was being a friend. I was working with my clients to transform their lives from anxiety to inner strength. I was working in my office helping to grow a business that is surely being of service to hundreds of others. I can assure you that I was not sitting back and doing nothing. I was showing up to my life in ways that does not and does not need to show up on the world wide web.
It is by looking back that I am so excited to move forward and share the view from the observation deck of my life and all the wisdom that came with it. It is by looking back that I was able to see the values of loyalty, perseverance, relentless unconditional love, patience, creativity and commitment. It is by looking back that I am moving forward.
What qualities of greatness can you find within yourself as you look back on your life that make you into the person you are?
Pesach (Passover) is over and life is getting back to the daily grind. I was determined after such a meaningful holiday of freedom to start over. It went by so quickly that a sadness overtook me as I prepared myself to face regular life again.
I shared this with my friend who said to me “Why are you sad? It is Sefira (counting of the Omer) and we are just preparing ourselves for Shavuos!”.
She was so perky about it that I felt spiritually unprepared and inadequate. I tried to turn it around and acknowledge my thoughts in my journal. I thought to myself “today is the first day of the rest of your life”. Then I looked in my journal and saw that I had written those same exact words three other times in the past two months.
It was very depressing. Everyone spoke about how Pesach was the opportunity to break free from the bondage of your own limitations and believe in G-d’s power no matter what the circumstances. Now Pesach was over and I was counting down until Shavuos, which is by now only six quick weeks away. My hope for me next level of growth was looming harder to achieve.
Tonight, after unsuccessfully trying to reach friends to pull me out of my funk, G-d’s kindness touched me moments after my son walked in on my tear struck face embarrassed by my silent prayers for G-d’s loving direction towards my happy, productive, positive self.
I went to count Sefira tonight and it was number 10. Ten days closer to the receiving of the Torah. I realized that I had to mentally stop counting down and mentally start counting UP. I had to look up and forward to each day’s growth and opportunities captured and let go of the expectations that create so many missed.
For some reason, only G-d knows, I felt compelled to come back and visit my website. To revisit the blogs that I have not seen in a year. To hear my own words speak back to me and tell me what I needed to tell myself and would not accept from a friend.
I am going to reblog the old posts that said so much in so few words. They tasted like sweet wine that grew finer with age. I hope you will join me in counting UP towards a newer fresher, wiser you.
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wishing you much success,
shaindy (mother who took the course 2 years ago and sent this to me last week)
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